Monday, July 26, 2010

on being old

doesn't it seem like in our world, being twenty-something is the most ideal place in life?
that kinda makes me sad.
not there yet,
but once I'm twenty-two and not smiling every minute of every day,
it might get depressing
like, "okay, this is it. go have fun"
and once I turn thirty? ouch

but it doesn't have to be that way, does it?
I have a friend who is a good deal older than me, like sixty-something
and she does sixty-something very well
not trying to be younger, or be anything else
just taking care of herself and loving others and giving wisdom
and that's so wonderful
I don't feel afraid of being older
maybe that's because I'm eighteen...
but don't a lot eighteen year-olds shudder at that thought?

my friend said something to the extent of,
"I want to feel good, I want to look good.
I won't feel or look like I did, but that's okay,
I don't want to be hot.
I just want to be my age well."

it scares me to see older women in the news, looking hot and being on the hollywood scene
like, "oh man, I thought you had grown out of that?"
don't you know you are like my grandma's age?
just be dignified and don't worry about your arms so much, okay?

there's so much wisdom to be had at an older age
and you don't have to hold to labels and brands and be in-the-know
isn't that the charming thing about grandparents?
that they don't know everything about technology and they're still awesome?
it's like there's this little wonderland of interesting facts about the life they lived
and the world they grew up in
so, so, so neat

I love all my grandparents so much
and I miss my grandmother staying with me
remember a while back when I said she was coming to stay?
we had the best time. ever.
as soon as she left I felt so, so sad and missed her like crazy

anyway...I wasn't trying to make a point except...
- if you are older than "the prime of life", have a great time and don't worry about it
-and I love my grandparents
-being old sounds actually quite nice!

and what do you think about all this?
I don't think there are many grandma-bloggers out there (if you are one, comment!)
but you, at your prime-of-life stage, tell me what you think
about getting older
and being younger
and your grandparents
all that jazz


April said...

Growing older doesn't scare me, but the health problems that come with it sometimes sort of do. I don't care about being old - I just don't want to be sick. (This may be because I've been in hospitals - as a nurse, not a patient - for the last 5 years of my life.)

I will say that I want to age well, and not try to stay young, whatever young is. So relative. Last night, Mark and I were eating out, and there was this table of probably late-40's to mid-50's-ish ladies. They were all trying to stay in their 20's, I think. And they looked awful. Their skin was tan and leathery, their hair was obviously bleached, they were ugly-skinny, some of them had OBVIOUS boob jobs (like, they weren't wearing a bra), and they were all quite tipsy, and they were really awful to their server. In contrast, there was a sweet family next to them with an older couple (late 60's?) and a younger couple and a baby. And the woman who I guessed to be the grandma was SO pretty - white hair, dressed age-appropriately but not frumpy. She was smiling. She looked happy.

I'd rather be her.

Rebecca said...

So true! Trying to be who you're not - at ANY age - doesn't wear so well. Fortunately, my grandparents completely embrace that they don't know what PC stands for and they're still wonderful - they tell all the outhouse and swimmin' hole stories you could imagine!
It's all about being yourself and embracing who you are and wherever you are in life. ^^

Chloƫ said...

You are wise beyond your years, sweet girl. It is so true that the 20's are the modern "golden years", when really, aren't they supposed to be in your 50's+? I sometimes worry about growing older...about "losing freedom" with having kids. But then I realized that that's the way the world looks at it, but the Bible says children are a *blessing* from the LORD. Who in their right mind would consider a blessing a burden?

I'm babbling now, but I just wanted to say thanks for sharing. This was a great post today.

chai am woman said...

oh man. i love this topic! i have actually been very surprised that life really does get better and better (and better) as time goes on. i don't think it's a twenty-something thing... i think it's just a *perspective* thing. and that can definitely come at any age. my early twenty-somethings were okay... the end of college was great but i felt a little unfulfilled (the whole "what do i do now?!? crisis haha) and 22-early 24 were a mix of great and miserable... great things in my life like marriage and having a little one but i was SO SO SO miserable in my job that it kind of overshadowed everything else. i let it take hold of me. now that i'm OUT of that miserable job and have a very fresh perspective from a place of LOVING what i am doing now... life is THE. BEST. it's ever been. and the best part about THAT is that i know it can only get better as i finish school, G. gets older, paul and i go gray together... really. i think it's just perspective. LIFE IS WHAT YOU MAKE IT and that gets better when you're doing what you love and surround yourself with people who do the same and support you.

best advice i ever got from a high school teacher? "choose your friends, don't let them choose you." and i really don't think he meant that *just* in terms of friendships or relationships... i definitely (now) apply that to almost everything i do... there are definitely good thing in life that "choose" you but it's important to separate the two. i was a really good teacher and i know i would've been a *great* teacher over time but i was letting my job choose me... not cool.

sorry for the long-windedness... this is just something i love. life only gets better with age (even a little of it), lovely! it's like clothes... "wear the dress, don't let the dress wear you" haha!

britni @ Antika Moda said...

I agree, and I also "just want to be my age well." I'm twenty-something and I embrace everything youth has to offer, I look forward to embracing every stage of life. I'm always looking toward the future with hope and excitment.

Karen Anne said...

I agree - I admire women who age gracefully and embrace who they are. It makes me think of actresses like Judi Dench and Juliette Binoche who are classy and seem to be always age-appropriate. I think the key to aging gracefully is being young at heart, though.
My mom is over 50, a grandmother, and she and I still go on 5 mile runs together! She's amazing :)
I married at 20 and I'm now 24. I've found that life, with all it's difficulties and ups and downs, is so full and so beautiful and just gets better with age. So it's hard to say whether this is my "prime" or not! Many of my friends and family thought I was giving up on my future by getting married young, but the opposite is true! Life has been better and more wonderful. I married a man who loves and esteems me (and I him!)and I feel so blessed to have met him so early in life. It's been fun experience our younger years together.
Being surrounded by people who love you unconditionally, growing in the knowledge of Christ's grace -- I think that makes you feel beautiful. And the passing years and added lines and gray hairs are just evidence of a blessed life!

Gina said...

i recently turned 26 & am a little nervous about how close to 30 i am!

MH. lovely by m said...

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Dancing Branflake said...

I just had a birthday and someone jokingly told me I was old. I actually got offended! I know I'm not old but I really really want to hang on to this year forever. I love it! But I say that about every birthday.

freckleonthenose said...

There have been rough patches in life (there always are), but I can honestly say that every year of my life has been more fun than the last. Hopefully that trend continues, even if I do feel like I'm getting old (26). :)

rachel! said...

i know.. i've been thinking about this, like, we're responsible for living the rest of our lives.. and living it WELL. this is good though, we can do it so well. i'm positive, i'm so excited.

☁ christine ☂ said...

thank you for your sweet sweet comment! :) i'm glad you enjoy stringed lights and bunting as well! :P

i am definitely afraid of getting older! i'm 26 and feel like i'm in at a quarter life crisis. i would have to agree that 21-23 were the best years so far, less stress. but there's lots of pros and cons! just have to make the best out of it.

i hope this comment finds you well! just enjoy and don't waste time worrying about things that don't matter or things you have no control over. happiness cures everything :)